LATEST UPDATE: ------------------------------------

See new Facebook event page sponsored in part by the new Facebook group: Guys Into CMNM Facebook Page

Join our new GuysN2CMNM group on Celly:
https://cel.ly/c/guysn2cmnm

Visit the CMNM Group & Forum on JUB http://www.justusboys.com/forum/group.php?groupid=40

See CMNM on Wikispaces

CMNM Wikispaces

The CMNM Site on Pridesites collects together all the parts (sites, blogs, application, links) into one set of pages.

See list of upcoming CMNM events on Eventbrite:

Check out the London CMNM Group via Meetup.com

Los Angeles M4M Strip Poker Group's Parties happen semi-regularly. See info on right --->

More ideas or info is included on my Tribe.net Blog, at my Homoerotic Antics Tribe , or at my JustUsBoys (blog) is a list of more possible CMNM events, some held, all not yet decided or scheduled, but with your help they will be.

Send in your event or ideas on what CMNM to plan, tell us about a CMNM event, or make suggestions or comments about events on the following form: CMNM Event Idea Form

https://sunbunz.wufoo.com/forms/cmnm-event-idea-form/

Friday, May 26, 2017

Places for finding sex in public: Cruising areas Part 2





[Note: A Follow up of a discussion on Dudesnude com] A response by this author in April, 2011; updated May 2017]

This topic is a frequent one of interest to both gay and bi-curious men, of which the latter are married or involved in relationship with women and thus need some 'male-oriented' sexual release. I have blogged / talked about this many times but as the warmer weather approaches (in the northern hemisphere), thoughts of furtive sexual hunting games and orgiastic and erotic encounters in public places again captures my full attention and brings my (and maybe yours too) to full erection in anticipation of public outdoor sex with anonymous hunks and in reality, most times with regular blokes.

Where do you find the male cruising areas?

The list is not extensive or complete. I am sure many of you can recommend your own favorite gay beach or public cruising area.  Please add any you have enjoyed or know about in a comment below .


Well, it's partly gaydar.. or rather the basic hunting instinct of the male of the species. The place just seems right or you can feel the vibe of the cruisers mentality as you walk down a certain street or alley, enter a public park or seek out a less crowded corner of a local recreation area or beach. Public restrooms figure prominently in these zones of the sexual hunter. Perhaps not simply because they do offer a vehicle for 'semi-public' exposure of one's sexual and, obviously, excretory organs. But it may be the associations, and the fact that men have just handled or are about to touch their own privates which may heighten their sexual awareness of others - particularly the men that are experiencing similar sensuous emotions - even when they can be put in actual words or envisioned in their minds as any kind of defined sexual act.

The ambiance of the gay cruise area may residence in such factors as: location, convenience, proximity to other male or gay-oriented spots (Home Depot's tool department, garden shop and its restrooms may be notorious in this respect), whether or not the male body can be exposed as normally accepted behavior, such as a public or university gymnasium locker room, or public swimming pool, or whether there is some chance of seeing the naked male body or at least parts of it (such as a beach, or sunbathers on grassy lawn in a big city park, or where even more explicit male (and/or female) nudity occurs, such as a strip club, or nude beach or clothing optional resort or camp, or at some public large-group events where nudity may be involved, such as Mardi Gras and Carnival, etc.

Here are some of my recommendations for places to find male-4-male sex (and gay, homoerotic or sexual stimulation or gratification in public places:

Some very large metropolitan parks in major world cities have an unspoken tradition of clandestine public sex. Englischer Garten in Munich’s central park, New York’s Central Park, San Francisco’s Golden Gate Park, and Tokyo’s Yoyogi Park are all places where (sometimes) and if you only know where to look you can see people (straight and gay couples) having sex. In Tokyo, a few years back, there was a kind of club of guys who made it their hobby to spy on couples making out or fucking or otherwise petting/masturbating each other and attempts to take photos (or at least use night vision binoculars).


Some large public fairs, street events and d
Demonstrations sometimes have episodes of public sex: Southern Decadence (gay event at Labor Day in New Orleans), Mardi Gras, (at various locations), Folsom Street Fair, and Dorey Alley Parade, etc… I am inclined to think it might happen at WNBR but I have no evidence to prove it (maybe just wishful thinking).

YOUR FEEDBACK and RESPONSES are appreciated:

The list is not extensive or complete. I am sure many of you can recommend your own favorite gay beach or public cruising area.
Please add any you have enjoyed or know about in a comment below .


1)  The dunes of Maspalomas, near Playa del Ingles, Gran Canaria, Spain. The Canary Islands are Spanish territories off the coast of Morocco. There is tons of gay semi-public and sometimes heterosexual sex going on in the dunes just behind the large nude beach (FKK) area.



2) There are dozens (if not more) nude beaches around Spain (from Barcelona to Cadiz). Also on the eastern coast of Spain, there are several nude beaches and gay cruising areas. I was pleasantly surprised with I visited Gandia (a university town along the beach about 40 minutes from Valencia) to find a nude beach that also has some gay cruising.  It was located between Gandia and Xeraco,  called Playa De L'Ahuir.

Very often you can expect to see a gay men’s cruising area close by and therefore, sometimes you can view sexual acts by people (supposedly gay men) who either don’t know or who don’t care.



3) Sometimes the parking lots at large beachside resorts become a sexual playground for a few adventure-some couples. Normally, only male-female couples can actually get away with it. But it does happen between men when there are the right circumstances - such as a full moon  or when there is a nude beach nearby.

I watched a mixed race couple (M/F) fuck in the parking lot to Black’s Beach (along with quite a few other people) across from UCSD campus. It was really hot watching a big dick-clubbed black dude butt-pound from behind a white woman with her bikini rolled down her legs, whom he either had just picked up on the nude beach, or with whom he had been ‘overstimulated’ by spending an afternoon out on the nude beach (mixed sexes).

P.S. Due to greater police and ranger patrols, this seems to becoming rarer.

A few such clothing optional beaches in the US that used to have some public sex going on (either hidden or safely discreet) were:

Nude or Gay Beaches in the US

At least, I had the pleasure of getting lucky with one or more male sexual partners at each of the following public beaches:



  • a) Herring Cove State Beach, Provincetown, Cape Cod, Mass.  New park ranger patrols make it difficult to even be naked, and the rangers also patrol the dunes looking for illicit behavior to arrest guys.
  • b) Black’s Beach, La Jolla, between UCSD and Torrey Pines State Preserve (Park)
  • c) Baker’s Beach, San Francisco, near Golden Gate Bridge Land’s End Park, near The Presidio - not far from Seal Rock
  • d) San Onofre Beach Park, (no longer legally a nudist beach)
  • e) Williamette River, Eugene, Oregon - near Lane Community College, also near a concrete plant - a river side swimming area used to be a gay cruising zone, and was a place that hippies and college kids could get naked and fuck in peace.


Some very large metropolitan parks in major world cities have an unspoken tradition of clandestine public sex. Englischer Garten in Munich’s central park, New York’s Central Park, San Francisco’s
Golden Gate Park, and Tokyo’s Yoyogi Park are all places where (sometimes) and if you only know where to look you can see people (straight and gay couples) having sex. In Tokyo, a few years back, there was a kind of club of guys who made it their hobby to spy on couples making out or fucking or otherwise petting/masturbating each other and attempts to take photos (or at least use night vision binoculars).

Some large public fairs, street events and demonstrations sometimes have episodes of public sex: Southern Decadence (gay event at Labor Day in New Orleans), Mardi Gras, (at various locations), Folsom Street Fair, and Dorey Alley Parade, etc… I am inclined to think it might happen at WNBR but I have no evidence to prove it (maybe just wishful thinking).





Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Urban Stress Relief or Sexual Molestation - Riding Tokyo's Trains


Urban Stress Relief or Sexual Molestation - Riding Tokyo's Trains

[Reposted from a separate blog entry]

As you have no doubt heard, there are now Women-Only train cars on the some of the public and private train and subway lines in Tokyo - it's an attempt to prevent sexual groping (men abusing women or teenage girls). They operate these cars mainly during peak rush hours. Yet, I wonder if the authorities realize that they may be encouraging male-male groping behavior by reducing the ratio of women on train cars.

When I lived there and travel to Tokyo, I found it somewhat erotic - although more frequently just plain frustrating and irritating -- to be crammed together like sardines in a train car. Especially during morning rush hour, there is invariably a time when your body or someone else's in pressed up against your front, back or side. Most people try to appear oblivious and just pull in their appendages, and bear it (not bare it), but there seem to be quite a few men (both str8 and otherwise) who seem to enjoy it.

I have had my share of being groped or at least rubbed provocatively by Japanese men on trains. Some of it, of course, is completely accidental. However, there were times when it definitely was not so innocent or at least was mutually pleasant -- to put it mildly.

One time I could feel the guys cock rubbing against my leg - I am taller than many Japanese men (altthough younger men are getting taller and taller as the years go by). He was obviously enjoying the sensation because as we rode along and the train just got more crowded, he proceeded to get a full on erection.

Another, I was on the Keio line leaving Shinjuku at night and it was very crowded. A young guy seemed to not only welcome have me pressed up against him, but he turned himself so that our crotches would be pressed together. This wasn't actually either of us groping, but the force of the bodies and the movement of the train keep us both aroused as we were smashed together at the groin.




There is an urban myth among gays in Tokyo that men who are seeking mutual accidental encounters (rubbing, groping or even stealthful mutual masturbation) will congregate in the last car (or is the first car). Once I saw a tall foreign guy in overall apparently getting a hand job from a shorter Japanese man (last car on the Chuo
(Orange) train.

Finally, there used to be a wild event on or near Halloween (Oct 31) on the Yamate train (green circle line around central Tokyo). Each year, hundreds of people in costumes would all meet at Shinjuku station at 9:00pm and then jump all together in the same train (literally filling up the cars like
morning rush hour, then at the next stop, everyone would rush like man to change cars -- sort of like musical chairs. I participated once and ended up being videoed on the national television news (since the media decided to show up and film the event). The JR authorities did NOT appreciate it -- especially since some 'regular' passengers were bumped into or caused inconveniences (like not being able to get off the train).


There was also a lot of trash (beer cans, wigs, and pieces of costumes) left on the trains - because most everybody was drinking or already drunk by the time the wide train parade got going (typically on a Friday or Saturday night). One guy who I befriended while riding this mad Halloween train rush, was wearing nothing but a yukata (casual cotton kimono) and proceeded to show me that he had nothing on underneath it.
Male-Male Sex in Public Places
Japanese men are not completely bashful - while modest in daily life, they certainly are not adverse to getting their rocks off and men of all persuasions will sometimes have sex in public trysting spots -- called 'hatten basho.' These cruising areas are sometimes in posh locations or in department stores and shopping centers, at public parks, and at the local swimming pools and gyms or sports clubs.


Saturday, May 20, 2017

CMNM is a not only about men liking men: It's a male bonding ritual



CMNM is a not only about men liking men: It's a male bonding ritual
       
Loving to be with guys who are naked (or being naked with guys who aren't).... that's the core of what CMNM (clothed male / naked male) situations are all about.

Some (of us) are really in to it.. and seek out such situations whenever possible - of course, it's a gay thing for many of us.

By the way, it is NOT ONLY about homosexual attraction. I could go on and on... but men need (and enjoy) using nudity between themselves and in groups of men (like sports teams, fraternity, army/military, clics and groups of buddies, while in temporary all male situations, such as camping, scouting, etc) and have done it since the beginning of societies... (I'm not talking physical desire or lust between men) to express friendship, belonging to a group, male affection and camaraderie, and dependence/interdependence, control/authority, loyal, leadership, bravura/machismo, and platonic or brotherly love.

I think almost every guy has some times (or even a lot) when he wants to see them naked or be seen naked by his buddies. It's part of identifying with being a man. We've had this discussion in bits and pieces many times on this forum before.  When you absolutely 'need' to be naked or be the clothed guy around naked ones (for various reasons - different for every person) then you are said to be into CMNM or have it as a fetish (if you need it to get off).


I've gone forward (evolved?) in exploring CMNM in myself, and also socially. I have set up many online CMNM groups, and have been trying to organize off-line real CMNM events, meet-ups, parties, etc.

I have a regular blog devoted to the subject: Guys Into CMNM at:
guysn2cmnm.blogspot.com

and on Facebook Page: Guys Into CMNM page at:
www.facebook.com/guysn2cmnm


For those who might in Hawaii this Xmas/New Year's, we are organizing the Hawaii CMNM Festa on Xmas weekend (Dec 25-2 in Waikiki Beach, Honolulu (Oahu), Hawaii.

Find out more at in my JUB blog posts  or at the CMNM Festa Invitation page on Eventbrite.

https://www.eventbrite.com/o/club-cmnm-2813880240
or
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/blogs/49298-sunbuns99 (for on-going updates on the CMNN Festa events as they develop)

If there's enough participation (well in advance), we'll be hiring stripper, and clothed/costumed performers for parties / CMNM role-playing at a private residence. Some events are public or low cost, others required advance booking.

You can also keep up with updates on the CMNM Twitter:
twitter.com/cmnm
or read updates as they are posted/re-posted and tweeted at:
 
http://guysn2cmnm.blogspot.com
http://cmnmguys.tumblr.com/

On JustUsBoys, you can join our CMNM group there:
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/group.php?groupid=40

Hope you can 'show' up! (ha ha), but some day there may be a CMNM Festa Event near you. )

Kelly, organizer -- You can also read about this and more CMNM posts in my JUB blog or visit:
Guys Into CMNM
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https://www.eventbrite.com/o/club-cmnm-2813880240



The spirit is willing but the flash is weak-- day and night. http://sunbuns.blogspot.com

NOTE: It appears I was just deleted from facist facebook (FB) for doing what I don't know. I was just attempting to encourage another friend who had been deleted just a little while ago. Fortunately, there are several other people who can take over for me in the various CMNM groups, pages, and application in Face(ist)Book.