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Friday, June 2, 2017

Would a Joint JUB Dudesnude Adam4adam Manhunt Grindr Recon Gathering (Party ) be Possible?

How about a joint, JUB (, Dudesnude, Adam4Adam,  and Manhunt Gathering or Party?

Do you think it could be possible? Why? How? Where? When?
 Got any  ideas about how to make it work?

 It seems that JUB ( members  and even members  are hosting small gatherings across the US. So I'm wondering if guys on,,,, Recon, etc, would be interested in organizing some private parties or one giant party or event -- either in the USA or Europe (or both or even elsewhere)?

 Is anyone here actually participating in those -- attending and/or planning? I wonder if another large online virtual community like could do the same? Would there be any benefit of trying to hold a joint party/gathering?

That brings up the idea of a "joint" cross-group event - -but after all,  isn't that what PRIDE events or the annual street fairs are all about (such as Southern Decadence).

I am not nixing the idea of a Off-Line Mixer, or DN party or RECON convention or some  other event,  I am just making some suggestions so it might actually happen. For example, we could hook-up with an existing event and thus attract more Tribe / Manhunt / JUB or DN members to attend. I am also explaining what I think is needed to be decided in order to get one organized.

At least, we could start by having local /  JUB/ Manhunt/ or Dudesnude members sponsor one event at a major Gay Pride / Gay Carnival event (on their continent or region).

As I thought (and wrote) more about it the idea of a Tribe/ Manhunt/ Dudesnude-JustUsBoys Gathering seems more possible and more fun -- so I have started making real suggestions (at least on I have approached the idea to anyone here -- except through this blog entry.

The realities of actually organizing 'party' / 'convention' - 'round-up' or whatever it is called are
daunting if you try to actually get many DN members to attend. 

Instead, there may be some wisdom in starting on a smaller scale. It does takes a spark -- a
somebody(ies) who will take the initiative to set a place/time, have a clear purpose/events/activities, make contacts and coordinate communication.

It seems to be a bit difficult to come up with a 'purpose' for a such a giant  party -- if it a sex party/orgy then we'd better call it that. If it's a social gathering or an organizational meeting then we'd need to get that clear. If it a sponsored event that is part of another major gay (men's) event or an event or series of events organized for one of these sites (on its own) that's great but we need something to focus on: a parade float, BBQ, camp-out, beach party, ice-cream social, apres-ski party, pot-luck supper (in the nude) etc) then that would work.

If is going to have mulitple purposes then that's got to be decided or at least sorted out, but it seems that we're not likely to come up with ONE general purpose because of the diversity of men, locations, ages, and interests.

Still, if somebody got one party/convention organized, once it has been started and successfully held, it would be model on how to proceed with others (or how to improve upon the idea).
Also, why not have them rotate from venue to venue and occur several times a year?-- instead of trying to have simultaneous 'parties/conventions'.

 So ... I'll help organize one in Tribe / Manhunt / Adam4Adam/ JUB / DudesNude Gathering for winter,  spring or summer 2015 in the US (several locations), or at similar times in Europe since it would be possible for me to attend. I' m sure there are plenty of guys in either region to make the party a smashing success.

The First Gathering could be easy. If enough guys are interested, then we could set up a BBQ picnic in designated city and location, such as public park, so  the Jubbing around ( good clean fun - such as talking, chatting, playing games and any Dudenuding could go on at the (unofficial gay/nude beach or at a private residence or hotel room (suite).

Stay tuned below for more info and an Evite (electronic invitation) or MeetUp and also listed on each of the gay social network sites listed above.
Palm Springs  -- we could stay where we like but gather at one site (Inn Exile, CCBC, or wherever) for the main party/event(s).

Or it could be held sometime in February 21-March 5 either Honolulu (lots of hotels and also plenty of beach), or The Big Island (nude gay beach party on the Puna shore, accommodation could be at Kalani resort - from camping to bungalows to hotel-class rooms )

Playa del Ingles / Maspalomas (Gran Canaria, Spain) Carnival 15th March - 20th, 2015 (or 2016).
or perhaps later March 19-28 the same years.
There are cheap flights from London, Germany, Amsterdam, Madrid. We could organize shared accommodations at both gay and vacation condo/hotels and have a huge blast on the largest gay beaches in the world during the day (all in the nude) and then split up into small dance/bar-hopping by interest groups at the many clubs in the Yumbo Center in the evenings.

There are other locations that may also be great:
Tampa or South Florida, March 12-15
Maspalomas, Gran Canaria (Nude Gay beach party), March 18 - 28 (dates to be arranged)

I could attend one in Europe (and maybe help out with one) in London, Paris, Amsterdam, Budapest) in March -- if the Gran Canaria does not work out.


TRYING OUT EVITE or MEETUP (both have websites and also iPhone apps) as ways to help organize (and/or just poll the members about enough interest to pursue the idea, and to actually start planning a location/time.

If you guys will indulge me, I have created an Evite to test its ability to actually find out WHO would attend a JUB/Dudesnude party or Gathering.

If you can or can't, I need a few JUB/DN members to try out the Evite link below:

Since it is may be a BROKEN URL link (yes, I understand very well why it may be), then you can piece together the parts of the URL and send me a reply at the EVITE site. Or you can send me e-mail and I will send you an Evite directly. It includes some of the features -- liking polling, brining things, that future JUB and/or DudesNude or Joint JUB-DN gathering hosts might need to know and info they'd need to be able to do collect.

So I'll someone who reads this will try it out -- even if you can't really attend that event on Jan. 1st in Honolulu.

Since I don't know the everyone's e-mails (nor would I send it to EVERYONE even if I did), but I do need a couple of people to try to see if the Evite works. It could also be useful to try as a site for setting up and sending out invitations and tickets to such an event.

One major stumbling block to actually organizing an DN event or party is the fact this is not a email LIST or group (Yahoo or MSN, etc). So there is no way to send everyone a message (apart from site host / web admin) - and they should NOT have to organize events AND run / host this site too.

So here's the link and hope you can make it (or at least try to send a RSVP or decline the invitation).
It will give me (and maybe someone in a different location) a resource for helping to organize a JUB/ DN event (if it works).

If the URL link is broken or incomplete, try piecing together the three parts in your browser. I hope you can please try it (if you have time and are willing to test out the Evite or Eventbrite systems as a possible vehicle for helping organize future events (and more accessible to more numbers of  DN/ JUB, Tribe, Adam4Adam, and Manhunt members).

Thanx from Kelly or sunbunz

Gay sex and ethnicity - Part 2

I find the sexual preference for certain races and how gay/bi/str8 men interact sexually across races or before their races/ethnic or mixed origins to be both fascinating and perplexing.

Having lived for many years in Japan - as both a straight married father and, at the same time, often moonlighting there and elsewhere in the world as a single gay male MUP (middle-aged urban professional), I have encountered all races and ethnicity of males (and all people) - socially and sexually.

I 've also experienced being an absolute racial minority - such as in Japan or Cambodia or Thailand - where whites make up far less than a tiny fraction of a percent of the general population. Of course, tourists are a bit different story. But was of course in the once mostly-white racial majority of the US -- growing up in the South -- Georgia, Tenn, KY.

I love men of all races (attracted to them is what I mean)- but it's on a case by case, personal level -that is the real test of the attraction. I can be categorical in defining my likes or preferences but it does not always bear out in actually meeting a specific person.
So why even talk about people (men) at racial entities? I don't have answer - just at least I've thought about it some and still think it's worth reflecting on - because it's kind of key to comprehending the human condition and your own part it shaping its continuing evolution.

Think of cetaceans - many people should know what they are but it's a word rarely used in daily conversation and is probably unknown by many when used out of context. We don't ever say - the Chinese, long-nosed saltwater porpoise - we just call them either -whales or dolphins (one single group more specific but not as discriminating as the racial names we give ethnic groups - kind of like grouping all 'humans' into three big categories (African, Asian and European) or Easterners and Westerners -- what about the billions that are somewhere outside those too broad divisions.
You can sometimes hear people say (to their friends who know them very well) -- "Oh I met this guy who was really hot..."
But in our more formal, public discourse with strangers or just work colleagues, family members etc.

"Oh I met this Japanese guy who was ..." or "Oh I met this black dude who was like so..." Each of these utterances shows different levels of ethnist attitudes (I don't call it really racism because there isn't much evidence that the person speaking is a racist or even prejudiced or discriminatory (in a bad sense) - they are just discriminating or differentiating for the sake of the listener and what 'think' will communicate more effectively or clearly to the person that are talking to. Our social register determines somewhat what 'attitudes' we conceal or reveal. The problem with today's online and telecommunication media-based communication environment is that we often don't have a clue what social register to use in such a publicly open style. Sorry if I'm lecturing - you don't have to read this and probably won't even make it this far -- unless you are interested.

If we're talking about comparing physical attractiveness of one ethnic/racial group over another -- it's really a personal preference but so shaped by our own common social values that we really actually don't have much choice in the matter.

That being said, I've come to admire and be physically and pyscho-sexually stimulated not only by all kinds of men because of their ethnicity - not just their skin color or physical traits (features, endowments). Each ethnic group has behavioral (body language, facial expressions, fashion, the way the move and use their bodies/limbs) and rather unique (to that group) social responses in how they move, react, interact that are quite different and also just as appealing (not exactly in a sexual way - that's fetishism carried to an extreme).

It's like appreciating the hundreds of kinds of gourmet cheeses or great wines from all over the globe.. some people eat to them live or just enjoy, others live to enjoy them. I think you can savour the male 'essenses' in various forms - including across racial/ ethnic / blended human gene pools- or you can just gobble down dick like a horse (or pig) without carrying who's on the other end -- racially.

Myself, I find racially-ethnically mixed guys to be the sexiest -personal preference -- partly because I no longer have to bridge the racial gap (at least from my point-of-view) - I can see them as just really cute guys or gorgeous men in NO relation to any racial/physical ideal or category.

Having raised two biracial, bilingual and bicultural children - Japanese mother and me as their father - British and Irish white male with some Cherokee and bit of French trapper, I am well aware of the inter-racial mixtures of such movie (and other media/ sports/entertainment) stars as Keanu, Cain and A. Jolie (and other racial mixes such as Halle Berry or Tiger Woods, etc and actually there are many others. It's a growing world phenomenon and also interesting to see how these people can sometimes be either not identified with racial group (Angelina Jolie) or sometimes are (Halle Berry) or beyond any categorization (making up his own - Tiger Woods as Caublasian - I think I got that right).

I have said it before (here on JUB) and elsewhere - this is one of the most amazing benefits about living in a place like Hawaii; and there are many and a growing number of places where the ethnicities/races/cultures/subcultures can mix freely and also retain their cultural identity -- at the same time as being part of a humanity-respecting society of diversity (and cetacean-respecting environment too).

Hey.. I sound just like I'm a new-age religious missionary... what the hell... Oh well, I'll go on..

Unfortunately, racism exists! So-called enlightened societies have been taking conscious efforts to reduce its negative effects - I can't judge yet if it's been entirely successfully - the clash of civilizations (which is partly racial/ethnic/intercultural has just gone re-started (partly thanks to the GWB kind of mentality and mis-leadership.

But there are also equally threatening social evils (?) that haven't been clearly recognized as being problems - ethnism (prejudice or discrimination against culture groups or subgroups linked to racial or ethnic identity). It sort of what was talked about earlier about why some ethnic cultures view white Americans as the top of the heap - it's a form of 'ethnist' thinking that non-whites accept or even adopt without thinking ..

Raising the human consciousness is a never ending climb up the psycho-evolutionary ladder - - well, at least until cloning and robot intelligence achieve post-scientific levels (I call it x-sci-fi jidai (era 'Japanese term' that George Lucas loosely borrowed to name his Jedai knights and 'bushido'-like culture of the Force).

I'm sure I've lost a few people by now because the length of this post alone ... LOL... but I am just talking about the
inevitable evolution of human nature and human form and human sexuality .... In a few years (100 or 200 years from now) there won't be that many racially identifiable individuals anyway...

More will be pan-racial in origin and multi-ethnic, multi-cultural by then.. so how long shall we keep discussing this???
It's very likely too there won't be any more artificial distinctions between straight, gay or bisexual preferences. We won't have much to talk about then, will we?

Absolute and true paradise is as boring as hell.

Duh .. whatdafu** .... I' ll stop here.